Last updated: July 26, 2016 When you mention to someone that you’re living in Flower Mound, Texas – the immediate expression that you see on that person’s face usually says everything you need to know. “Ah, so you’re a rich suburban white dude/woman who’s scared of big bad Dallas.” I can usually see the very thought running through their head…
But, the thing is, I’m neither rich, nor am I scared of Dallas. I make far less than the median income here (insider tip – you can live in Flower Mound very inexpensively by choosing to lease a humble apartment or small home). And, I actually love Dallas and all of the people there. I love talking with most people from all walks of life about all kinds of fun stuff. I consider myself to be the opposite of a snob. If I see you, and you look cool (or cute), I’ll probably want to talk. However, one of the realities of living in Flower Mound or many other DFW neighborhoods is that you’ll be labeled as a snob. Especially if you decide to live in Flower Mound, Southlake or Highland Park.
While I don’t notice much of the supposed “snobbiness” of Flower Mound and the rest of DFW anymore – I do realize that many people believe that those from Flower Mound are snobby and/or cliquish. So, after some careful research on the issue at hand, I’ve decided to list out some of the potential reasons that living in Flower Mound might turn you into an upper middle class snob.
So I’m here today to answer the utmost important question of the year – Will Living in Flower Mound Turn You Into an Upper Middle Class Snob? I’ll provide you with the cold-hard facts on the issue, as well as my own personal opinions on the matter. But, it will ultimately be up to you to decide if Flower Mound truly deserves to have the snob factor attached to its reputation, or not.
Here’s the full list of personality traits that will ultimately determine if living in Flower Mound will turn you into an upper middle class snob.
Living in Flower Mound Snob Trait #1.) If you feel like you need to drive a luxury vehicle to survive here, then you might turn into a Flower Mound snob
Don’t get me wrong – I love the feeling of driving a BMW or Benz. It’s an enjoyable experience that I’d consider paying for (I might even consider owning one at some point in the future). But, for some reason, I get the feeling that most people drive luxury vehicles around the Dallas area to overcompensate, fit in, or feel accepted. People are more interested in making the statement of “I drive a luxury vehicle” rather than just enjoying the sweet ride.
Again – I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with
leasing purchasing a luxury car or SUV that you’ve worked hard for.
But, why are you buying that Lexus for $20K more than the almost exact same Toyota, Flower Mound girl?
Living in Flower Mound Snob Trait #2.) If you’re a $40K millionaire then you might turn into a Flower Mound snob
You’ve all heard of the $30K millionaire from Dallas before. You know, the guy who makes $30,000 a year, lives in Uptown, leases a beamer and then hits the bars four nights a week like he has Park Cities old money bankroll?
I was pretty much that guy at one point in time. Yeah, you read that correctly. I was the $30K millionaire. I felt pretty cool about it too, until the facade slipped away at the end of each month and I had to pay off my credit card bills (or simply ignore them).
After a life lesson learned, I still see this same kind of thing happening across Flower Mound. But, after adjusting for inflation over the past 5 years, I’ve dubbed quite a few Mounder’s as $40K millionaires. I still see much of the same facade that I once lived, but at an amplified rate (thank God that part of my life was short-lived).
Now, I’m obviously not saying that all people in Flower Mound make $40,000 a year and act like they’re millionaires. I’m just saying that people here are most likely charging a bit more than they can afford on the ol’ AMEX to keep up with the Jones’. I don’t know this for a fact, as I don’t go around asking locals about their credit line utilization. But, when you put the pieces together, you realize that finances are a taboo topic to discuss in Flower Mound – for very good reason. No one wants to mention it, but we all kind of subconsciously understand that quite a few people here are in over their heads.
P.S. I know that life and medical emergencies happen, and that credit can be an extremely useful tool. I am not making the argument against using credit. I’m just saying that there’s no need to act like a $40K millionaire regardless of the actual income you make (trust me, I would know). Just buy that Neiman Marcus wardrobe with cold hard cash and you’ll probably be alright!
Living in Flower Mound Snob Trait #3.) If you can’t let go of your social circle from high school or college then you might turn into a Flower Mound snob
I’ve already written extensively on the topic of Flower Mound/Dallas being a “bubble” city, and I’ve also mentioned that I don’t really like that stereotype because it’s true of most cities and not just DFW.
But, at the same time, there is a large aspect of Dallas that does hold onto lifelong social circles more so than other demographics. This is because people in Dallas and Flower Mound do not want to leave. It’s difficult for people to leave this area because life is so convenient and the cost of living is so reasonable.
While holding onto your high school and/or college social circle is ultimately what you make of it (this can be good or bad) – I really think it can turn you into a Flower Mound snob because people just get too comfortable with being around the same people for so long. When Flower Mounder’s aren’t challenging themselves by meeting new groups of people, leaving Dallas on occasion, or getting out of their comfort zone – this is when people begin to stagnate and become kind of lame.
While the DFW bubble city reputation has become notorious, it’s really not all that bad in reality. Yeah, you might turn into a Flower Mound snob if you keep a tight-knit social circle from high school, but at the same time, that’s probably what the rest of the world is doing too.
Living in Flower Mound Snob Trait #4.) If you think you’re really important then you might turn into a Flower Mound snob
They say that how you treat your waiter/busboy/fast food guy is a strong indicator of how you view yourself.
Okay, I honestly don’t know if anyone has really said that, but it sounds so right!
My point is that some people in Flower Mound act like they deserve Four Seasons treatment at the local IHOP. Talking down to people isn’t unheard of here, and neither is acting like you’re too busy/cool to have a minute-long conversation with someone you just met.
The truth is that no one in Flower Mound is that special, but quite a few people definitely feel like they are.
*Side note: This one doesn’t apply to most. Most people from Flower Mound are exceptionally cool, love life, and are happy/good people. There are definitely the exceptions who live here, though.
Living in Flower Mound Snob Trait #5.) If you spend a significant portion of your day on social media then there’s a 62.3% chance you’re an upper middle class Flower Mound snob
Ah, social media – the necessary evil of Dallas. You’ve got to keep your Facebook account around to stay “in the know” of what’s happening around town, but at the same time, you’ll also be tempted to log-in and check on all of your friends, family members, exes and acquaintances who you haven’t seen in months.
And Twitter is just as bad, because people actually use Twitter now rather than Facebook, so you’ve got even more social updates to keep up with.
If you have a strong social media presence that you LOVE to manage (constantly adding new pictures to Facebook, perfecting your poolside snapshots with sangria in hand, Lifetime Fitness tennis court selfies) then you are a 100% Flower Mound snob.
I hope this article hasn’t been too harsh on my own people. I tried to have some fun with it, but it might have sounded a little too negative at times. Anyway, that’s okay. The negatives are often a part of life, and it’s best to talk about them openly and honestly. I really think that the above characteristics which you’ll *occasionally* witness in Flower Mound are highly correlated with being considered a Flower Mound snob. And, I still think that’s okay. If you’re OK with being considered a Flower Mound snob – then I honestly don’t care. And neither should you. If you’re genuinely happy, that’s what matters. If you aren’t happy, then you might consider dropping a couple of of your snobbier traits.
Or don’t, because that’s what a true snob would do.
The snobby downsides of Flower Mound are a very small price to pay in order to live here. I mean, we don’t really have violent crime or theft that exists. So, there has to be SOME kind of compensatory downside to living in Flower Mound. And that downside happens to be a low level of ‘snobbishness’ mixed with light drama, credit card debt and gossip. Whatever. Sounds like just another first-world problem to me.
If our problems are so few and far in-between in Flower Mound that people resort to being snobby – then I’m completely fine with that. I don’t even think that many people are snobby here (I don’t notice it). It’s only when I have guests over from out of town that they mention to me that people here are more reserved and less welcoming than they’re used to.
But then again, those same friends of mine also say that Flower Mound has some of the most attractive women, greatest homes and best parties that they’ve ever witnessed. I’ll take that trade-off any day.
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